ADVOCACY

Take the Quiz

Test yourself and your partner with the following non-scientific "gut-check" questionnaire. Examine your "gender differences" and allow the discussion to lead to constructive re-examination of family parenting practices.


Agree or Disagree

1.  

Maternal is more important than paternal in the successful upbringing of a child.

 


Answer: Both parents should be of equal importance. Each parent brings similar and complimentary parenting skills and experiences to their children.

     
     
2.  

Shared parenting (post-separation) should only occur if both parents agree.

   
Answer: Shared parenting should be the right of both parents, but more importantly the right of every child.
     
     
3.   Fathers are more likely to be responsible for a marriage breakdown.
   
Answer: Canada practices "no fault divorce", so getting caught up in this is a fool's game and only gets in the way of the "best interests of the child."
     
     
4.   The Tender Years Doctrine is correct in asserting that young children should remain with the primary caregiver, post-separation.
   
Answer: To accept this would be to fail to recognize each family's right to determine what works for their family. 10% of fathers take Paternity leave. Should that disqualify those mothers from shared parenting?
     
     
5.   A parent who is the primary caregiver should have the legal right to move away with the children for personal reasons (i.e. new partner, job, etc.).
   
Answer: This is a difficult issue. Both parents should feel a strong obligation to remain where both parents remain actively involved in the child's life. If not possible, the parents must work out a parenting plan that best matches the current quality of time each parent has with their child.
     
     
6.   Fathers are disproportionately more likely to miss their support payments or their access time than Mothers in a similar situation.
   
Answer: This is a myth. There is evidence that suggests mothers are more likely to miss support payments if they are the "non-resident parent." Research is limited because the focus is on the so-called "deadbeat dad."
     
     
7.   The parent who no longer dwells in the family home with the children is most likely responsible for the separation.
   
Answer: This is a myth. Most dads simply believe that they are more adaptable and they undervalue their parenting importance. They also want to avoid conflict with their children's mother and disruption for their children.
     
     
8.   The life of the children’s primary caregiver is most negatively affected by the separation and divorce.
   
Answer: Both parents face a difficult road, but let us propose the question differently. Would you rather care for your children on a daily basis or see them on Wednesday and every other weekend?